There are many set backs in life that we view as “earth shattering.”  Divorce is one of them. Marriage is fragile because it takes two to make it, but only one to break it.
 
We ask the question, “why me?” or “what could I have done differently?”
 
Speaking from experience, the worst thing you can do is turn inward.  Don’t play the “blame game.”  I personally blamed God.  I felt like I gave Him my life, always prayed for the right partner in life, but it turned out to be a mistake from the beginning.  I saw how He blessed other Christian marriages, but not mine.
 
I finally had to come to grips with myself that it was my decision, and I would have to take responsibility for it.  It was also my decision to not stick it out for better or for worse as I pledged I would.
 
Now that I am a psychology major, I know how I could have handled things better, although I make no excuses for my ex. I can now offer some suggestions to help others.
 
After it is all over, the first thing you need to do is to sit down and take a big deep breath.  Breath in and say “I am starting a new life.”  Breath out and say “I am letting go of my past.”
 
Second, give yourself time!!  Never marry on the rebound. Learn to enjoy being single. Get a spiral notebook and journal your feelings.  What have you learned? How will you do things differently next time?
 
It seems like life is over, but it is not.  Tomorrow is a fresh new day with no mistakes in it!!